REUNITED

J, 

For my last entry, I’ve opted for another fresh entry into the joytrain. 

¿Puedes creerlo? We’re just hours away from the sweet relief of our long awaited reunion. Before long you’ll be jumping into a taxi to LIR, saying “see ya (real) soon” to Costa Rica, and then it’s wheels up for home. 🛫

As I write this, we just ended our FaceTime call and you’ve already secured tickets for our first international trip together… right back to Costa Rica! Pura Vida! 🇨🇷 

Despite our vastly different environments, both of our experiences apart were fraught with deep yearnings and probably too many J&J overshares to inquisitive friends, colleagues, and clients, alike. Nevertheless, we did it. We’ve survived this two week three month separation! Our humble-brags to friends, handwritten notes, bazillion texts, selfies, calls, and this digital joytrain successfully kept the emotional lights on. 🚂 💕 💕 💕

The dichotomy of how hard it was to be away from each other against how easy it was to sustain and grow our love is both amusing and reassuring. 🥰

It is also wild to recall that it’s been approximately 312 hours since I last kissed your lips and felt your warm embrace. But in classic, sunny Julie fashion you kicked off our lengthy separation by looking ahead to today’s reunion and serenading our then long goodbye with “Reunited.” 🎶

Jules I am yours, you are mine… “and it feels so good.” Bienvenido a casa, mi amor. 🤗

Forever yours,
J ❤️

TWO DAYS UNTIL J&J REUNION ❤️

LOST & FOUND

J,

I’m slipping in a freshly written note for today’s joytrain. 🚂 💕 💕 💕

This time apart was manageable but obviously aggravated by an immediate failed surprise, a demoralizing injury, a stunted search for grounding, and many unshared moments—“J, where’s Jules?”

Swiftly, you have become a central part of my daily glee and hope-filled future. As such your physical absence has been arresting. (Theo too, frankly). Quickly, I was given a taste of single-hood days not long past: dancing alone, unshared laughs, wordless stretches, empty beds, and empty tanks. 

My happiness comes from many places. And while my partner is not responsible my tranquility, do know that your mere presence creates an exponential expansion of my heart.  

I may have lost you for 13 days, but in that absence I found that my love and desire for you is intense and without end.

El lunes no puede llegar lo suficientemente pronto.

Always yours near and far,
J ❤️

THREE DAYS UNTIL J&J REUNION ❤️

HOME STRETCH

J,

By now you’ve said your farewells to clients and staff, settled into your new surroundings and begun to switch from coach to student. Soon you’ll be deep into the inner work of Julie Weix. Surely, we’ve made it this far. But thirteen days is a long time. So if you’re reading this… well then… estamos muy cerca de nuestra reunión, solo quedan tres días.l!!

Remember when we started “dating”, like our 2nd or 3rd dates? Three days apart was practically a minimum. No sweat. We can do this. 🙌

Honestly tho, I don’t know how relationships survive things like year-long deployments, cross-country living situations, etc. During separations I occasionally struggle with an inner dialog—beating myself up for not being able to squash my needs for connection and touch. Nevertheless, I have learned to balance my romantic attachments against my sense-of-self and will always make an effort to reserve and appreciate the times apart in a relationship. But still the longing is there.

During this time apart, no matter the day, I am sure I’ll be on your mind and in your heart as much as you’ll be in mine. Hopefully, our continued distance and longing won’t be a distraction as you embark on the next phase of your inner work. So I’ll remind us of a couple of things you read in my first letter almost two weeks ago (TWO WEEKS AGO!!!).

“My hope is to provide you a daily anticipated quick ride on the joytrain to nurture our emotional connection while we’re physically apart… Along the way I expect you’ll find your own level of deep hearted growth…”

So dig deep Jules, as you take your journey of the soul. In the meantime, I’ll work on finding my own inner peace in your physical absence and trust in our amazing emotional connection that knows no distance or time. 314 🥰

Always yours near and far,
J ❤️

Four DAYS UNTIL J&J REUNION ❤️

WEIGHTLESSNESS

J,

It’s FRI-YAY and your last full day of client engagement! From what I recall, today will be filled with adventurous fun and celebration—including a lofty Jules plunge into the ocean. 💦

Speaking of plunges, the joy and suspense of our unhesitating commitment to each other feels a lot like—albeit cliché—two people holding hands and jumping off a tower into the ocean together…

the heady anticipation, the confidence of our mutual grasp, the momentary weightlessness of stepping out into the open, the celebratory shrieks, the thrill of the fall, the warmth and wet of the ocean enveloping our bodies, coming up for air, the cheers of friends, embracing the triumph, and swiftly ascending the summit to make the joyful plunge once more. 

In just four short days you’ll be home again and we’ll be scaling our next cliff together. Güepaaaaaa!!! 🙌

Always yours near and far,
J ❤️

FIVE DAYS UNTIL J&J REUNION ❤️

GETTING HINGED

J,

Our meeting is a miracle. It took our combined upbringings, countless pivotal choices, good and bad relationships, career trajectories, relocations, personal discoveries, incredible timing, and an algorithm. That last bit I’ve struggled to accept. 

Online dating was a roller coaster of extremes that beat the hell out of my self-worth—most of which you’ve heard by now. Tinder, Bumble, OKcupid, Hinge, I loathed them all as much as I hoped they would deliver. Nevertheless, I knew I only had to be right once; so reluctantly I kept swiping. And much like hunting for a lost item I found you in the last place I looked. 💕🔍

Despite my amazing fortune, I always expected the love of my life to have an unbelievable “meet-cute” story attached to it. I’ve had those before—and they are indeed a joy to share when the inevitable “how’d you meet” question is asked by friends and family. However, what I’m learning through the novel beauty of our relationship is that our unbelievable meet-cute story is not how we met... but everything we’ve done (and will do) since we met. 

Siempre tuyo, cerca y lejos,
J ❤️

SIX DAYS UNTIL J&J REUNION ❤️

WOMEN LIKE YOU

J,

Today I’d like to share my journal entry about our 3rd date. The most romantic date I have ever experienced.

Thursday, September 21, 2023 4:15pm - Hiking Spyglass Greenbelt trailhead 🥾😅🐶🏡🌙🛟💦🪩🎶🍷😘💕

Our walk date turns into a hike through the greenbelt. I pick her up. We fall into each other almost immediately. I come bearing a gift for Theo. On the hike we discuss dozens of topics—the conversation flows so easily. We maintain a brisk pace both in conversation and steps. She listens extremely well. She’s made a point to touch me in simple affectionate ways. She also wells up with giddy excitement at times and does her best not to explode into my chest with a big hug—then she does. We think we’re lost, but we make it back easily. 

We swing by my place to let Tucker out and give her a tour. Tucker dives into her. The same curiously affectionate way Theo dives into me. They must know. She loves my place. We head back to hers. She gives me her tour. The place is unbelievably beautiful. She tries on cowboy boots—she looks sexy in them. Night falls and we decide to go for a swim—wine, music, and the stars above. It’s incredibly romantic.

In between deep kisses, we discuss all sorts of candid topics when I hear in the background, the Avett Brother’s song “Women Like You”. I turn it up, tell her to listen to the lyrics and describe why this song is so special to me—and now hopefully her. She floats in the tube and soaks up the energy while I massage her feet. It’s quite the magical moment. We continue having this amazing swim discussing all sorts of wholehearted topics. Her response to all of it is amazing. We dry off and move to the couch. 

More topics flow and the makeouts are getting intense. We discuss sex, kids, and the future. It’s approaching 11:30 PM and we’re both getting tired. We can’t wait to share a bed in all the ways. We leave each other wanting so much more.❤️

Pensé que ya no hacían mujeres como tú. Estoy asombrada y agradecida a Dios y a tu madre por mujeres como tú.

Always yours near and far,
J ❤️

SEVEN DAYS UNTIL J&J REUNION ❤️

DUST OFF YOUR SMILE

J,

Like a soundtrack, various forms of music have always been a constant background throughout my life. I’ve sung along with so many tunes; reciting the lyrics without a thought to them. 

Over the past seven years, perhaps out of age or experience (probably both), I had begun to identify with and understand the deeper poetry of those songs—usually of the sad variety. Lyrics I’d recited for decades suddenly hit hard and I developed a new found appreciation for the tune and empathy for the shared experience of the writer. But since meeting you I’ve found myself more often identifying with song lyrics of hope and joy. 

One of my favorite bands of all time, Future Islands, has a song that has particularly resonated with me in this way. It’s called For Sure. Several of its opening lines stand out to me in relation to growth out of low valleys. But I particularly so innately identify these lines with how I feel about our burgeoning relationship…

• Dawn of your eyes, dust off your smile

• When you say ’us’, you make me trust

• I will never keep you from an open door

• I know, you know

• That’s how much I feel in everything you are…

• I will never keep you from just who you are

Through these past several years I’ve done the work to heal my soul and widen my heart. This growth also came with a new level of understanding of what I want and need in a partner and, most importantly, how I can do the real work of loving that partner. I feel incredibly safe with and inspired by you. As such, and noted by many others these many weeks, I truly have “dusted off my smile”. 

Always yours near and far,
J ❤️

EIGHT DAYS UNTIL J&J REUNION ❤️

LITTLE THINGS

J,

There are countless unmistakable qualities about you that I absolutely love and admire. If I were to attempt to compile a list of them I’d surely be here till the next morning—your intellect, those brown eyes, your expansive heart, your juicy 🍑, the way you demonstrate love, your personal style, your passion for joy and growth… the list of the obvious goes on and on. 

But what about the little things? Bueno, es el día ocho… so here’s eight little things I adore about Julie Weix. 

1. The short upturned corners of her coy smile. 

2. The way she rears back with a belly laugh. 

3. Her little stolen spoons.

4. Her attention to subtle details.

5. The way she covertly touches me while focused on others.

6. When her curls get all crazy and voluminous.

7. When she can’t control her giddiness.

8. The way she looks at me.

These are but a few of my favorite little things and I’m enjoying collecting them all.

Always yours near and far,
J ❤️

NINE DAYS UNTIL J&J REUNION ❤️

COSTA RICAN DAZE

J,

Depending on when you read this I’ll be sweating it out with my Domingo brunch crew and you’ll be easing into day two of your retreat on the Península Papagayo. 🌴

I hope your first day was rewarding from the moment y’all welcomed your class onto the beach—perhaps like Aphrodite and Poseidon coming ashore 🧜‍♀️. Then wrapping the energizing day with an evening of tranquil inner game work.

I look forward to the adventurous days we’ll soon share in Chicago, Costa Rica, and beyond—seat-mates, unexplored roads, new friends, stunning vistas, romantic settings, and long conversations. But I equally anticipate all the days full of simple pleasures that we’ll share in the future—morning tea, shared showers, cozy snuggles, home projects, delicious dinners, mutual friends, late night swims, and even longer conversations. 

A veces la mayor aventura es una conversación.

Always yours near and far,
J ❤️

TEN DAYS UNTIL J&J REUNION ❤️

READY, SET, JOY

J, 

Esta aquí. Your first official day of the retreat. Today you may be feeling slightly anxious but I bet it’s more like sunny anticipation. Y’all have done the work. Managed the unexpected. Sorted all the details. Those that matter, anyway. And probably a few that don’t. You’re more than ready.

This is your wheelhouse—to make the world a little brighter for all those whose hearts and minds you touch. Without a doubt you have deeply touched my own (plus some other parts 😉). As such, my world is awash in a new joyful light. Thank you, Julie.

Now take a deep breath, then go forth and bring much joy and enlightenment, mi amor!

Always yours near and far,
J ❤️

Eleven days until J&J Reunion ❤️

Two days or two weeks

J,

It’s already day three! You’re two days closer to home with only 264 hours to go!

Eleven days feels like forever after we’ve spent so much quality time together these past eight weeks. EIGHT WEEKS! Can you believe it?! Remember four weeks? That feels like four months ago. Our quality time is so substantive that we should measure our relationship in dog years—one J&J day equals one week. Using that math we’ve been together for over a year! And frankly that feels just about right… so happy first anniversary, Jules!!!

I hope you have an invigorating and productive final preparation day. Soon we’ll be reunited… in only 263 hours and 56 minutes. 😉

Always yours near and far,
J ❤️

thirteen days until j&j reunion ❤️

LOVE TO WATCH YOU LEAVE

J,

Bienvenida a Costa Rica! Ya te extraño! This is the first of 13 brief notes I've written for you to read while you're away. My hope is to provide you a daily anticipated quick ride on the joytrain to nurture our emotional connection while we’re physically apart. Each is dated by the remaining time to our reunion. Consider it an analogue version of our countdown timer.

As I write this, I have to imagine our aeropuerto adiós was bittersweet. But now you’re safely in your element and getting energized for the days of deep introspection and adventure you will joyfully—and skillfully—imbue within your clients. Along the way I expect you’ll find your own level of deep hearted growth; especially as you embark on the next phase of your Journey of the Soul classes.

I’m incredibly proud of you and the part you play in making the world a better place.

Always yours near and far,
J ❤️

PS How about that cha-cha-cha on this pencil bag?!